blissandzen:

budgiebazooka:

ryanvoid:

budgiebazooka:

ryanvoid:

that when somebody refers to themselves as a “lady”, it’s usually in a comparative context that judges other people for doing things that they choose not to?

“Because I was raised to be a lady, I don’t have premarital sex.”
“Because I’m a lady, I don’t raise my voice or curse or wear low-cut tops.”

I mean, honestly, good for you that you’ve got a set of standards and boundaries, but lady is a word that’s lost all meaning by this point. Unless you actually own a parasol or a collection of bone-china teacups, you don’t get to use that as a basis for comparison.

You’re not a Jane Austen character, and your choices aren’t the standard by which everyone else’s should be judged. Quit that.

I call myself a lady all the time. “Lady-shaped person,” for example. Perhaps this is regional? I couldn’t say, obvs, since I don’t have experience with all regions. Ha ha! Anyway, IDK.

Mostly I mean “huh weird, I haven’t noticed that.”

Yarp. I just noticed a bit of slut-shaming today that involved the justification of “I’m a lady” followed by all manner of horrible implications, and I vented a bit of frustration. Didn’t mean to speak out of turn; it just seemed like a lame excuse for making somebody feel shitty.

OH GOD PLEASE JUST LOVE ME

XD nah, you’re fine! i was just a bit thinky and wobbly about it, which is pretty normal for me. because i am a huge nerdball.

In Ryan’s defense, I believe he likely stumbled upon a classically Southern phenomenon wherein the historically privileged deem their own group (some of them, at least, always including themselves) to be “ladies” and every other female to be a “tramp” of some stripe, and has been well enough educated by his friends to take appropriate umbrage at its use in public. He was doing his best to live up to enlightened modern standards in a fairly medieval culture.

You really need to come South for a couple years, Grace. You’d get enough material to write for decades, if we could keep your head from exploding.

I’ve had premarital sex with multiple partners (both male and female), I like to use the word fuck, and sometimes I like to get so drunk that my boyfriend thinks I am obnoxious. And do you know why I do those things? Because I am a LADY.