Most of you who know me know that I’m kind of always in gender transition. I’ve been definitely a girl, and definitely a boy, and neither, and both, and a butch female, and femme guy, and a whole bunch of other things.

But here is what I am NOW.

McKinley Madeline Jennings-Bowler (legal name change imminent) is absolutely genderqueer. Currently he (she?) is going through a burst of hyper femininity, which contrasts a little bit oddly with the fact that she just got a very boyish haircut. She/he/it is currently in the market for a bra that fits, and wants to wear pretty dresses and heels sometimes.

Also, sometimes he wears shirt collars and ties and skinny jeans.

Basically, I have stopped trying to figure it out. I can’t even keep my own pronouns straight in my head, so all of you are officially off the hook. If you like me better as a she, have at it. If I’m more he-ish to you, go for it.

I think I kind of like being she-ish right now. I can’t explain it, but sometimes it just feels really nice to be someone’s girlfriend.